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Tony Miano Arrested For Preaching Against Sin In England

Here is a link to an article of brother Tony Miano being arrested in England for preaching against sin.  I watched the post-arrest video from Tony concerning this event.  Tony and his team were preaching the gospel and passing out tracts at the Wimbledon Tennis Tournament in England.  Tony chose to preach from 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 and was preaching against all sexual immorality including homosexuality.  A woman heard Tony preaching against homosexuality, cursed at him as she walked by, and then called the police to complain about his sermon.  The police arrived and arrested Tony for his “hate speech” against homosexuals.

Tony was then taken to a police station where he was questioned about his faith in Christ.  The British asked him where in the Bible he was preaching, did he hate homosexuals, would he help a homosexual if they asked him for food, and would he continue to preach against homosexuality if they let him go.  He answered appropriately but on the last question, he told them he would continue to preach against homosexuality since it was condemned in Scripture.  At this point the British told him he would not be released but would have to stand trial for his crimes against homosexuals.

This is coming to the United States.  It will be a crime to preach against the sin of homosexuality in this nation in due time.  My prediction is less than 10 years.  However, the Church of Christ must preach against all sins.  We must not pick and choose what sins to preach against but must declare what God’s Word says about all sin (1 John 3:4).  The Bible condemns not just homosexuality (1 Corinthians 6:9-10) but also lying, greed, idolatry, adultery, racism, etc.  May we be faithful to preach against all sin that robs God of His glory and sends people to hell (Romans 6:23).

Written by The Seeking Disciple

07/04/2013 at 9:46 AM

Temptation Is Not Sin

Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11:

9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

Notice that he says in verse 11 that such were some of you.  The Corinthians once were these people.  They once were living in sin but now through Christ Jesus, they had been saved (1 Corinthians 1:18-25) and the Lord was in the process of making them holy (Hebrews 10:14).  If you read 1 Corinthians, this was by far a perfect church.  They still had their struggles including one man have an adulterous relationship with his step-mother (1 Corinthians 5).  The Corinthians were a divided church (1 Corinthians 1:11-13).  The Corinthians were a church that even had drunkenness at their love feasts (1 Corinthians 11:21).  This was by far a perfect church (1 Corinthians 3:1-3) and yet Paul called them saints in 1 Corinthians 1:2.  They were being made holy.

Sanctification is not always an instant process.  My father was a smoker before he was saved in 1952.  He instantly stopped smoking.  He stopped cursing.  He became what 2 Corinthians 5:17 describes.  Yet my father was far from perfect and I saw his imperfections up close as a boy and now as an adult.  I praise God that my daddy is saved but he is not perfect.  None of us are.  Our aim, however, must be to become more like Christ.  We should not become stagnate in our passion to be holy.  My desire is to be just like Jesus (1 John 2:6).  I want to be able to say, like Paul, imitate me as I imitate Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1).

For others, sanctification is a hard road.  Some struggle with smoking or drinking before salvation and after salvation are still (and sometimes more so) tempted to go back to those ways.  Some just give in and claim this is how they are.  Some fight with their own will power but they lose the battle.  It is this way with many men I know over sexual sins.  Before salvation, they gave into their sinful desires to please their sexual desires but after salvation, they now hate sin but still face daily temptation to sin.

Here is the key: temptation is not a sin.  We must see this.  If you struggle with sexual sins, drugs, lying, gossip, idolatry, etc., the temptation to do these things is not a sin.  We all face temptations.  1 Corinthians 10:13 promises us:

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

Call me naive but I believe this verse.  I believe that every sin can be avoided if we look to the promise here.  God is faithful, He is able to deliver us.  Ponder this for a moment: the last time you sinned, who made you sin?  You did!  We choose to sin. We choose to give in to our flesh.  We are faced with temptation and we give in.  God doesn’t make us and in fact, He often is convicting our conscience to not sin, to run from the sin (1 Corinthians 6:18).  The Holy Spirit comes and He convicts us of sin (John 16:8) yet at times, we all have rebelled against His warning and sinned.  What do we feel after sinning?  Shame.  Remorse.  Failure.  Weeping.  Just like King David in Psalm 51, we hate our sins and we confess them to God.  Amazingly, God is merciful and kind toward us and He does not send us to hell as we deserve the moment we rebel but instead He lovingly convicts and restores just as He did with David through Nathan the prophet (see 2 Samuel 12:1-14).

The pursuit of holiness is not always an easy road.  I have been a disciple of Jesus for over 20 years.  I still face temptation sometimes on a daily basis.  Temptation is not sinful but when I give in to that sin, that is sinful.  The hope for us all is that Jesus Christ is our salvation (1 Corinthians 1:30-31).  Our salvation is focused entirely upon Him and He is more than able to deliver us from sin.  1 John 1:7 says, “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.”  Notice what the command is here to being cleansed from sin: to walk in the light.  We walk in the light by walking according to the teachings of Jesus, by focusing entirely upon what Jesus has done for our salvation.  This is our hope for redemption both initially when we repent and all through our life as His disciple.

In closing, I don’t begin to try to say that I am a perfect man.  Far from it.  I am a fallen man like all of you are fallen humans as well.  My wife can surely testify to my sins.  Yet I pray that we all see that God can help us overcome.  This is the miracle of salvation, that God actually does save us from sin and its power (Romans 6:1-12).  Galatians 5:16-17 describes our battle with our flesh in terms of a war.  This is just what it is.  We are at war with Satan and with our flesh but we have a mighty God on our side (Romans 8:31).  We can overcome!  The grace of God is our strength (Titus 2:11-12 NIV).  I pray that today this post will not condemn you in your sins but you’ll see that there is hope in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1-4).  Jesus can deliver us from sin and He can help us to be the holy people of God that God calls for us to be (1 Peter 1:15-16).  I pray that you’ll look evermore to Him for strength (2 Peter 3:17-18).

Why We Fight Against Racism but Not For Homosexuality

Here lately I have seen a few comments from the secular media that compares the fight from true disciples of Christ against the sin of homosexuality by comparing it with those who opposed blacks during the Civil Rights era of the 1950’s and 60’s.  The reasoning goes like this: those who opposed blacks being equal used the Bible and claimed to be Christians too.

While perhaps it is true that some in the South (and other parts of the United States) did fight against people of color having the same rights as all Americans, those who preached the Word of God were in violation of God’s Word when it came to those issues.  Race and the choice of sex are not the same.  A person is born with their skin color and yet underneath, they are still a human being no matter what their language, race, religion may be.  They are created in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27).  A person’s race is sacred before God.  God is not opposed to race whatsoever but He is opposed to inequality of the races (Galatians 3:26-29).

God further holds sex to be sacred and this is why we oppose the sin of homosexuality.  Sex was created by God and is to be enjoyed by two people of the opposite sex in the covenant of marriage (Hebrews 13:4).  Sex is holy before God because He gave it to us to be shared in the context of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24-25).  Ephesians 5:22-33 establishes the unique role that marriage is to play, mainly that marriage is to be a picture of Christ and the Church, His bride.  Sexual intimacy is to be enjoyed in this context, of a godly marriage (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).

Sexual sins rob God of His glory.  This is why sexual sins, above many other sins, is often pointed out the most in the Bible.  From David’s sexual sin in 2 Samuel 11-12 to the woman caught in adultery in John 8:1-11, we find sexual sins are prominent.  1 Corinthians 5 mentions the wicked man who was having sex with his father’s wife, his own step mother!  Galatians 5:19 opens with sexual immorality being the first sin listed in the works of the flesh (vv.19-21).  Sexual sins are also seen in 1 Thessalonians 4:3 and Revelation 21:8.  Sexual sins are dangerous because they rob God of His glory in a godly marriage that pictures Christ and His bride and they also hurt so many people.  1 Corinthians 6:15-16 forbids disciples from being sexually active with a prostitute.  Why?  Because it is not God’s standard as in the convent of marriage and it offends both the prostitute and the disciple since they become “one” in sex.  Romans 1:24-27 shows that the ultimate rebellion of humans is to ignore God’s purpose in sex and exchanging this for sex with the person of the same sex.

A person cannot change their race.  This is sacred to them from God.  However, a person can change their sexual desires as we see in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.  A white person is born white and remains white.  Their race is given to them by God.  However, a person is not born a homosexual.  They must submit to God’s law and abide by His commandments concerning the proper use of sex in the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman.

And that is why we will fight for people of color to be equal with all people but we will not fight for homosexuals to have equal status with heterosexuals.  A person’s skin color is not a sin.  What a person does with their body can be a sin if not done according to God’s Word.  Our standard is the Word of God.  It is not what Hollywood thinks or says nor what politicians tell us.  Popular culture is not our standard regarding sex.  The Bible is our standard and we must stand upon it.  The Bible alone speaks for God in absolute truth (John 17:17; 2 Timothy 3:16-17).  Let us abide in the teachings of the Bible and not in what others think about us.

For more information, I recommend this teaching from Gary Demar on human sexuality.  You can find it here.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

02/25/2013 at 10:00 AM

The Sad Reality of the Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy

What do we learn about our culture from the Fifty Shades of Grey books that have sparked a revival of reading among women especially among married women according to statistics?  I believe the answers are alarming and yet we need to read them.

1.  Lust Is Not Confined To Men.

We tend to think of lust as a struggle among men but the reality is that women too struggle with lust.  Lust is not confined to one sex.  Lust is a part of our human experience and can only be conquered by the grace of God (Galatians 5:19-21).  I will warn women here and now that now the words of Jesus in Matthew 5:27-30 who warned us that it was better to cut off our sinful members than to have our bodies cast into hell.  His point was not to abuse our bodies to attain holiness but His point was that we should avoid sin at all cost.  Lust, like all sins, destroys (Romans 6:23).  No sexually immoral person will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Revelation 21:8) and this includes those who fill their minds with pornography.

2.  Pornography Is Not Always Pictures.

Sexual novels have been around for years.  When I was a boy someone had given my mother a bag full of “love novels” which were in essence pornographic books without pictures.  I read them like crazy and filled my young mind with lust.  To many women, porn is only when you look at nude pictures of men or women.  That is not the case.  Porn, biblically speaking, is sexual immorality of all kinds whether lust or nude pictures or being involved with sex outside of marriage.  The Fifty Shades of Grey are pornographic books without pictures.

3.  Sexual Intimacy In Marriage is God’s Design and Safeguard.

1 Corinthians 7:1-6 makes it clear that sexual intimacy is to be enjoyed by husbands with their wives and wives with their husbands.  We are not to lust after other people.  We are not to lust after people even in books.  The three major struggles in a marriage are: communication, money, and sex.  Typically these three are what leads to divorce.  Sexual problems often trigger men to seek sexual fulfillment from pornography, prostitutes, or an adulteress relationship.  For women, the problem with sex is not usually about sex but about her husband fulfilling her other needs especially of communication.  Contrary to popular beliefs: sex is not always the solution to marriage problems.  Often communication is.  Learning to speak your husband or wife’s love language is vital to true intimacy.  I highly recommend Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages.

4.  Repentance Restores.

I would urge women who struggle with reading porn novels to repent.  Acts 3:19-20 promises us that God will send times of refreshing when we repent.  I love how the Lord told the Israelites that if they obeyed Him in Malachi 3:11 that He would rebuke the devourer.  God desires the best for us which is why He has instituted marriage.  Sadly, we are sinners who need a Savior to help us even with our marriages.  None of us are perfect (Proverbs 20:9) and all of us struggle with a godly marriage.  Yet our repentance before the Lord is vital to Him helping our marriages be what He wants them to be.  Marriage is not easy but it is wonderful when both partners are seeking God and seeking to allow the Lord to be the center of the marriage.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

09/06/2012 at 4:15 PM

Keeping Yourself Pure

Keep yourself pure. 
– 1 Timothy 5:22b

There are many promises given to us in the Bible for purity.  My favorite is Matthew 5:8 where Jesus tells us that the pure in heart will see God.  I want to see God.  I know that I am pure because of Jesus’ blood and righteousness but I also seek to be pure in a world of sin.  I am not perfect by any means (Proverbs 20:9) but I do long for holiness (Hebrews 12:14) and I long to allow the Holy Spirit to convict me and sanctify me as He wills (John 16:8-11).

That said, I know that many men (and some women) struggle with purity.  The Internet, despite all the good that has come from it, is full of sin.  Each day it seems I have to go into my Twitter account and block pornographic ads that claim to be people who follow me on Twitter.  It is disgusting to me.  It troubles my soul.  Pornography is one of the main tools that Satan uses to trap men.  God created us men with the desire for women sexually just by visual.  I can look at my wife and I can long for her sexually just by being in the same room with her.  My wife is opposite of me.  They say that sex begins in the kitchen and I guess for most married men that is true.  We must serve, love, cherish, and adore our wives even at times when they are not being as sexual as we would like.  We do this, serving her, not to get sex from her or favors from her but because God commands us to love her that way in Ephesians 5:25-33.  No doubt sexual intimacy is necessary for a good, strong, godly marriage (1 Corinthians 7:1-6).

Yet so many men struggle with pornography.  Most men hide this sin from others.  They even can act very godly and yet inside they are struggling with sexual perversion.  They need help.  Many, because of pride, never reach out to other brothers around them to confess their sins for healing (James 5:16).  Let me take a swipe at the traditional church here and say that the modern church largely does not allow men (or women for that matter) to confess their sins since they offer no real intimacy.  Small groups are not always the place for these confessions but intimacy is largely missing in the entrainment driven church.  The biblical church, however, should offer places for confession whether it be discipleship groups or men’s Bible studies.  Both men and women need to confess their sins.  It brings healing to let others know your sins.  This is one thing that the Catholic Church has right with their confession booth.  I completely disagree that a clergymen can dissolve sins but I do believe that confession is good for the soul.

Let me then point you to a couple of good sites for help if you struggle with pornography or sexual sins in general.  99% of men struggle with lust including this brother writing this post.  It is a struggle for all men that I know.  We must fight our flesh.  This fight will not end until Jesus comes or we die.  I remember years ago praying with an older brother and I asked him, “Brother, will I ever come to a place where I don’t struggle with lust?”  He said, to my dismay, “I am nearly 80 years old now and I still struggle.”  Only the Holy Spirit can help us obtain victory in our souls.  He promises in His Word to deliver us (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Pure Life Ministries is a solid place for those struggling with sexual sins.  Steve Gallagher’s books, At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry is the best book I have ever read on sexual sins and overcoming them through God’s grace (Titus 2:11-12).  He has written other good books as well but At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry holds nothing back in examining sin.  The book will destroy your pride.  Their website as well as their podcast are all excellent.  I believe that Gallagher is an Arminian in his theology as well though he has never said either way.  His passion is to minister to all disciples of Jesus.

Dr. Dale Wayman, an Arminian brother, has an excellent site, Ironstrikes.  Dr. Wayman has designed the site to help men be godly men.  You’ll find practical advice from his blog about how to be pure in an impure world.  His site, like Pure Life above, is focused primarily on men but women will find things there to help them as well.  I believe that women need to know the struggle that we men face daily with lust.  The world around us, through the Internet and television and movies and no to mention how some women dress today, attacks men daily.  Most men give in to their lusts.  Some men, like myself, want to hate our sin and fight it.  The sexual desires that God has given us is not sinful.  Lusting is.  There is a big difference.

I recommend both of these sites for sexual purity.  Don’t give up fighting your flesh.  Fight for your salvation.  Fight for your marriage.  Fight for your children.  Pray and seek God for His Spirit to empower you toward holiness.  Jesus came not just to die for our sins but to deliver us from the power of sin (Matthew 1:21; Romans 8:1-4).  Through the help of the Lord and many godly brothers such as those above, we can be pure and holy before the Lord (1 Peter 1:15-16).

Written by The Seeking Disciple

02/10/2012 at 9:13 AM

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