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Why We Fight Against Racism but Not For Homosexuality

Here lately I have seen a few comments from the secular media that compares the fight from true disciples of Christ against the sin of homosexuality by comparing it with those who opposed blacks during the Civil Rights era of the 1950’s and 60’s.  The reasoning goes like this: those who opposed blacks being equal used the Bible and claimed to be Christians too.

While perhaps it is true that some in the South (and other parts of the United States) did fight against people of color having the same rights as all Americans, those who preached the Word of God were in violation of God’s Word when it came to those issues.  Race and the choice of sex are not the same.  A person is born with their skin color and yet underneath, they are still a human being no matter what their language, race, religion may be.  They are created in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27).  A person’s race is sacred before God.  God is not opposed to race whatsoever but He is opposed to inequality of the races (Galatians 3:26-29).

God further holds sex to be sacred and this is why we oppose the sin of homosexuality.  Sex was created by God and is to be enjoyed by two people of the opposite sex in the covenant of marriage (Hebrews 13:4).  Sex is holy before God because He gave it to us to be shared in the context of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24-25).  Ephesians 5:22-33 establishes the unique role that marriage is to play, mainly that marriage is to be a picture of Christ and the Church, His bride.  Sexual intimacy is to be enjoyed in this context, of a godly marriage (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).

Sexual sins rob God of His glory.  This is why sexual sins, above many other sins, is often pointed out the most in the Bible.  From David’s sexual sin in 2 Samuel 11-12 to the woman caught in adultery in John 8:1-11, we find sexual sins are prominent.  1 Corinthians 5 mentions the wicked man who was having sex with his father’s wife, his own step mother!  Galatians 5:19 opens with sexual immorality being the first sin listed in the works of the flesh (vv.19-21).  Sexual sins are also seen in 1 Thessalonians 4:3 and Revelation 21:8.  Sexual sins are dangerous because they rob God of His glory in a godly marriage that pictures Christ and His bride and they also hurt so many people.  1 Corinthians 6:15-16 forbids disciples from being sexually active with a prostitute.  Why?  Because it is not God’s standard as in the convent of marriage and it offends both the prostitute and the disciple since they become “one” in sex.  Romans 1:24-27 shows that the ultimate rebellion of humans is to ignore God’s purpose in sex and exchanging this for sex with the person of the same sex.

A person cannot change their race.  This is sacred to them from God.  However, a person can change their sexual desires as we see in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.  A white person is born white and remains white.  Their race is given to them by God.  However, a person is not born a homosexual.  They must submit to God’s law and abide by His commandments concerning the proper use of sex in the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman.

And that is why we will fight for people of color to be equal with all people but we will not fight for homosexuals to have equal status with heterosexuals.  A person’s skin color is not a sin.  What a person does with their body can be a sin if not done according to God’s Word.  Our standard is the Word of God.  It is not what Hollywood thinks or says nor what politicians tell us.  Popular culture is not our standard regarding sex.  The Bible is our standard and we must stand upon it.  The Bible alone speaks for God in absolute truth (John 17:17; 2 Timothy 3:16-17).  Let us abide in the teachings of the Bible and not in what others think about us.

For more information, I recommend this teaching from Gary Demar on human sexuality.  You can find it here.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

02/25/2013 at 10:00 AM

Pornography is not Intimacy!

Pornography is the desire for sex without the commitment to intimacy.  It is the feeding off the intimacy of others.  Pornography is for those who want to avoid intimacy.  But never forget, pornography is not sex.  Sex involves two people.  In a biblical worldview, sex involves a married couple who are committed to each other before God (Genesis 2:18-25).  Sex is the overflow of that couple’s intimacy but sex does not define a biblical marriage.  Marriage is not focused on sex.  Marriage is focused on intimacy.

That is why pornography is so dangerous.  It offers sex (but not really) without intimacy.  It seeks to replace what God intended to be between a husband and wife in the context of commitment.  Pornography is a sorry replacement for true intimacy because the person who indulges in viewing pornography is seeking intimacy in a wrong way, by viewing the intimacy of others.  They are not seeking intimacy with the one that God intended, their spouse.  Sex doesn’t begin with a kiss.  It begins with a ring.  It begins with a kind word, a loving smile, a warm hand, a listening ear.  Sex begins with a deep, passionate desire for your wife (or husband) to be your best friend, your passion, your hero.  Sex doesn’t begin with naked bodies.  It begins with long walks in the park, a rose after work.  Intimacy breeds sex.  Pornography produces lust.

How vital is it to learn to be intimate with your spouse.  God created our bodies to be enjoyed with only one person: our spouse.  He did not create them so that we could indulge in our sinful desires (Galatians 5:16-17).  In fact, sexual perversion will keep us out of His kingdom (Revelation 21:7-8).  We must guard against sexual perversion.  We can be forgiven of our sins (1 John 1:9) but His Spirit also empowers us to overcome sin (1 John 2:1).  Our passion should not be to view others intimacy but to create our own in the context of marriage.  In marriage, sex is beautiful and without all the guilt that comes from seeking intimacy without commitment (Hebrews 13:4).

I urge you, don’t allow pornography to trap you.  It offers cheap fulfillment with a substitute for the real thing.  It will never satisfy.  It will seek to and will even offer promises that it will satisfy but in the end, pornography will leave you spiritually bankrupt, guilty, dirty, and trapped in your mind.  The hope is the gospel.  The hope is intimacy with your spouse.  That is the plan and purpose of God (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).

Written by The Seeking Disciple

02/09/2013 at 11:59 AM

The Sad Reality of the Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy

What do we learn about our culture from the Fifty Shades of Grey books that have sparked a revival of reading among women especially among married women according to statistics?  I believe the answers are alarming and yet we need to read them.

1.  Lust Is Not Confined To Men.

We tend to think of lust as a struggle among men but the reality is that women too struggle with lust.  Lust is not confined to one sex.  Lust is a part of our human experience and can only be conquered by the grace of God (Galatians 5:19-21).  I will warn women here and now that now the words of Jesus in Matthew 5:27-30 who warned us that it was better to cut off our sinful members than to have our bodies cast into hell.  His point was not to abuse our bodies to attain holiness but His point was that we should avoid sin at all cost.  Lust, like all sins, destroys (Romans 6:23).  No sexually immoral person will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Revelation 21:8) and this includes those who fill their minds with pornography.

2.  Pornography Is Not Always Pictures.

Sexual novels have been around for years.  When I was a boy someone had given my mother a bag full of “love novels” which were in essence pornographic books without pictures.  I read them like crazy and filled my young mind with lust.  To many women, porn is only when you look at nude pictures of men or women.  That is not the case.  Porn, biblically speaking, is sexual immorality of all kinds whether lust or nude pictures or being involved with sex outside of marriage.  The Fifty Shades of Grey are pornographic books without pictures.

3.  Sexual Intimacy In Marriage is God’s Design and Safeguard.

1 Corinthians 7:1-6 makes it clear that sexual intimacy is to be enjoyed by husbands with their wives and wives with their husbands.  We are not to lust after other people.  We are not to lust after people even in books.  The three major struggles in a marriage are: communication, money, and sex.  Typically these three are what leads to divorce.  Sexual problems often trigger men to seek sexual fulfillment from pornography, prostitutes, or an adulteress relationship.  For women, the problem with sex is not usually about sex but about her husband fulfilling her other needs especially of communication.  Contrary to popular beliefs: sex is not always the solution to marriage problems.  Often communication is.  Learning to speak your husband or wife’s love language is vital to true intimacy.  I highly recommend Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages.

4.  Repentance Restores.

I would urge women who struggle with reading porn novels to repent.  Acts 3:19-20 promises us that God will send times of refreshing when we repent.  I love how the Lord told the Israelites that if they obeyed Him in Malachi 3:11 that He would rebuke the devourer.  God desires the best for us which is why He has instituted marriage.  Sadly, we are sinners who need a Savior to help us even with our marriages.  None of us are perfect (Proverbs 20:9) and all of us struggle with a godly marriage.  Yet our repentance before the Lord is vital to Him helping our marriages be what He wants them to be.  Marriage is not easy but it is wonderful when both partners are seeking God and seeking to allow the Lord to be the center of the marriage.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

09/06/2012 at 4:15 PM

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