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My Reaction to Same-Sex “Marriage”

As I write this, I am heartbroken by the 5-4 decision by the United States Supreme Court to legalize homosexual “marriages.”  The SCOTUS in essence ignored democracy, ignored State’s rights, and changed the fundamental definition of marriage.  The issue before the Supreme Court was not about marriage.  It was about affirming homosexuality.  This decision by the SCOTUS will not end the homosexual agenda as the attacks will now turn up toward the religious who do not affirm homosexuality.  It not about marriage but about affirming sin.

So how do I react to this wicked decision by the SCOTUS?

1.  This decision does not change the biblical view.  While I have no doubts that many “evangelicals” will embrace homosexual “marriage,” a true disciple of Jesus will never back down.  Why?  Because homosexuality is a sin.  Homosexuals are homosexuals by their sinful choices.  They can be forgiven just as all other sinners can be forgiven (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

2.  Marriage will not be redefined by the SCOTUS nor anyone else.  A biblical worldview is against any other view of marriage but the one given to us by God Himself (Matthew 19:4-6).

3.  The Church must continue to preach against the sin of homosexuality just as we must preach the truth of biblical marriages (Ephesians 5:25-32).  God’s truth does not change because our wicked culture now affirms certain sins.  The Church must continue to call all sinners (homosexuals included) to repent and believe the gospel (Acts 2:38; 2 Corinthians 7:10).  I will not cease to preach that homosexuality is a sin and that it can be forgiven by the blood of Jesus.

4.  This decision should cause to pray for homosexuals to be saved.  Again, the fundamental issue here is not about marriage.  It is not about equality.  It is about affirmation.  Homosexuals (like all sinners) know that their actions are against God.  They know that they deserve the wrath of God because of their sins.  We all know this about our own sins whether it be homosexuality or greed or lust.  We know that God is holy and we deserve His just wrath against our sins.  Yet sinners (and not just homosexuals) want to run from this judgment.  They want to pretend that if society affirms their sin, the sin and their guilt will go away.  It will not.  The Holy Spirit is still working, He is still convicting sinners (John 16:8-11) and He will continue to convict homosexuals that their sin is against a holy God.  We must pray for homosexuals to be saved by the grace of God.

5.  This decision, of course, is not final.  God can transform our culture back to the truth of Scripture.  We must pray for Matthew 6:10 to take place.  A revival of God’s truth can not only save sinners but turn our culture back to the Word of God.  Once this happens, the SCOTUS decisions will not matter in light of the ultimate Judge.  A thousand years from now, the rulings of the SCOTUS will not matter as God will still be King.

6.  No doubt this is a sad time in the United States.  While sinners rejoice in their sins (Romans 1:32), the righteous feel mocked, we feel defeated.  Yet Jesus is still King of kings and Lord of lords (1 Timothy 6:15).  President Obama may celebrate this wicked moment but the righteous know that our true King longs for sinners to repent (2 Peter 3:9).  We should pray for the SCOTUS and for our national leaders to repent.  We should pray for the homosexuals who fought to bring this case before the Court to repent.  We should pray for the homosexual couples who now believe that their sin and guilt will go away by becoming “married” before the Government to repent.  We must pray for God to bring repentance to this nation.

7.  Lastly, we should pray for true marriages to be healthy, to be what God designed them to be.  I am not a perfect husband.  I have my many faults.  Yet I know that my marriage is a true marriage because of the Word of God.  I am married to one woman and our marriage has produced three boys that I am already teaching about true marriage.  The true reality is that only true marriages can produce children and parents of those children can teach their children the truth of marriage before the wicked culture tries to pervert the truth of marriage.  No homosexual couples will ever have children.  It is simply impossible.  Therefore, we who can have true marriages and produce children need to do so and train our children in the ways of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).  This will turn back the tide of sin and turn our nation back to true marriage.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

06/26/2015 at 6:25 PM

Why Do Homosexuals Want To Be Married?

Why do homosexuals want same-sex “marriage” to be legal?  Most homosexuals have been content to just live out their lives without marriage.  One poll I read from said that less than 5% of homosexuals ever get “married” to their same-sex partner.  Most are content to abide in their relationships while recognizing that, in reality, only a man and a woman can legally get married.  There is no such thing as marriage “equality” and people know this.

That has now all changed.  Our culture is quickly moving to make same-sex “marriage” a part of our society.  Those who oppose same-sex “marriage” are said to be bias, old fashioned, a bigot, a homophobe.  Everyone is being ordered to not just allow for same-sex “marriage” but the drum beat from the culture is that it is to be celebrated.  If someone declares they are a homosexual, we are not to merely remain silent on the issue but should rejoice in their lifestyle.

And that is the bottom line issue of same-sex “marriage.”  Our culture is seeking to redefine marriage in order to legitimize the sin of homosexuality.  Our culture wants to legitimize not just that sin but others as well including lying, greed, stealing, polygamy, adultery, incest, pride, and even pedophilia.  Nothing is out of the range of redefinition.

And why is this happening?  First, the Church has failed to preach the gospel.  The Church has been focused on numbers and the seeker movement has produced a church void of truth.  The teaching of the Bible has been replaced with pop psychology.  Theology has been replaced with “application” teaching and “cool and relevant” teaching.  Prayer has been replaced with programs.  Evangelism has been replaced with making the “unchurched” feel welcomed.  Words have replaced power.  As the Church has become lukewarm, lacking in the presence of God, and focused on numbers instead of faithfulness to God, the result has been churches full of people but lacking in true disciples.  False converts are everywhere!  This has caused the Church to not be able to address social ills and questions with the authority of the Word of God.  How can she when she has been playing harlotry with the world itself?

Secondly, the sins of homosexuality, adultery, lying, greed, etc. will not go away simply because society claims they are not sins.  The fact remains that the human conscience knows that these are sins.  Romans 1:18 says that people seek to suppress the truth because they love their unrighteousness.  When people reject God, God gives them over to their sins which includes the acceptance by culture of sin (Romans 1:28).  People love their sins whether it be sexual perversions or their greed or their false religions.  People know they are guilty before a holy God because there is enough of the Law of God in our society still to convict but the culture wants to suppress the truth and, in their minds, end their guilt they feel for their sins.  If the culture can remove Christianity, they feel that their sins will no longer convict them and they can live in complete wickedness without guilt.  This will never happen.

Thirdly, the Church has failed to preach faithfulness in biblical marriages.  Far too long we have tolerated unbiblical relationships to exist.  We must preach the truth of God’s Word about marriage.  God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 NKJV).  God’s Word has presented us with biblical marriages and we must obey the texts (Ephesians 5:22-33).  True marriage pictures Christ and His Church.  We have tolerated marriages that are below God’s standard.  We must repent of this and pray for the Spirit to repair our marriages.  Homosexuals look at traditional marriages and they are able to show so many ungodly, unbiblical marriages.  Divorce among Christians is high (not as high as some would suggest) but we must preach against divorce and preach forgiveness, reconciliation, and the biblical roles of men and women in marriage.  I myself had to endure my own parents divorce and despite this happening when I was already an adult, it is not something I want to endure again.

The response from the Church must be the same as always: the preaching of the gospel.  Homosexuals, adulterers, liars, pedafiles, rapists, perverts, drunkards, the greedy, those in false religions, etc. all need the gospel.  Paul makes it clear that God is able to save such sinners in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.  Sinners need the gospel!  Our culture is full of sin and thus now is the time for the Church to preach the gospel.  Paul wrote in Romans 5:20-21:

20 Now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, 21 so that, as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Notice that where sin increased, grace abounded all the more!  The gospel is the answer for our society.  Now is not the time for the Church to conform to the culture and simply allow for homosexuality to become normalized.  We must preach against all sins!  We must stand firm on the Word of God even if the culture rejects us (and they will for the sake of their sins).  The Bible is able to cut people to the heart (Hebrews 4:12-13) even if the culture rejects the Bible.  The Bible is a supernatural book written by the Spirit of God (2 Timothy 3:16-17) and therefore the Spirit is able to open sinners hearts to the Word of God as we are faithful to proclaim its truth.  Let us pray for sinners to hear the Word of God and be saved (2 Thessalonians 2:13-14).

Written by The Seeking Disciple

10/08/2014 at 9:48 AM

Ryan Anderson

Ryan T Anderson has been around for a while but I am just finding out about him.  Anderson is a Catholic apologist for marriage.  He defends the biblical view of marriage as between one man and one woman.  Yet Anderson does so primarily from a conservative political point of view rather than arguing from the Bible.  He has debated a number of secularists who oppose his views and support same-sex “marriage.”  I have been impressed with his arguments though I would begin with the Bible in support of marriage and against the sin of homosexuality.

Though Anderson comes at the issue of marriage from a different starting point than I do, we both agree that marriage is good for a society, that marriage has always been between a man and a woman, that government has the necessity to protect marriage in this form since healthy families promote a healthy culture and also provide a stable economic force for the community.  I go further and argue that marriage is defined clearly in the Bible as between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5-6; Ephesians 5:22-32).  Because God has said that marriage is between one man and one woman, this should settle the issue for the disciple.  Our job then is to preach the gospel to the lost and the biblical foundation of marriage will become part of their life by virtue of God’s grace at work in their hearts.  The gospel produces healthy marriages and the gospel also fights against satanic lies against biblical marriages whether it be same-sex “marriage” or adultery or unbiblical roles in the marriage unit.

Nonetheless, I do champion Anderson for fighting to protect a biblical view of marriage even if he does so from another avenue.  While I do not promote Anderson’s Catholic views, I would support his views on the issue of marriage.  His voice is a needed voice in our day when we are being bombarded (almost daily) with the false idea that same-sex “marriages” do not hurt a society and are not the end of marriage.  We also are being told over and over again that this is a discrimination issue and that homosexuals are like other minorities who have been denied rights.  Anderson correctly points out that no one is being discriminated when it comes to marriage.  Anyone can marry.  But a true marriage is not defined by simply two adults (or more in some cases) wanting to make this a marriage or that a marriage just because they want to.  Marriage is between one man and one woman and people are free to marry or not marry.  None are discriminated against in this case.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

08/01/2014 at 11:24 AM

12 Years Ago Today!

12 years ago today I married my best friend in the world, Joni Bailey.  She has been precious to me and I would not trade her for anything.  We have been through many highs and lows.  We have seen the faithfulness of God through it all.  I love my wife and I love being married to her only.  I pray that God will bless us with many more years to come.

Happy Anniversary to Joni!

Ephesians 5:22-33

10-27-01 3 PM Thomson, GA

Written by The Seeking Disciple

10/27/2013 at 4:54 PM

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Thoughts on the SCOTUS Ruling on Same-Sex “Marriage”

Today the United States Supreme Court (SCOTUS) ruled in two forms regarding same-sex “marriage” in the land.  First, the Court struck down parts of the Defense of Marriage Act from 1996 that was signed into law by President Clinton.  The DOMA defined marriage as only between a man and a woman.  The Court ruled that the Federal Government could not discriminate against same-sex couples.  The second case that the Court ruled on was California’s Proposition 8 which defined marriage as between one man and one woman.  The Court passed on ruling on this case and thus made the issue of same-sex “marriage” a state-by-state issue.  However, Dr. Albert Mohler rightly points out that the Court opened the door for homosexuals to challenge the Constitutional ban on same-sex “marriages” in states where such bans exist.  Essentially, you’ll see same-sex “marriage” continue in states where it is legal (8 states at this time) and will be challenged in all 50 in due time.  In Dr. Mohler’s view, same-sex “marriage” will be the law of the land soon in the United States.

According to the secular media and even Lifeway Christian Bookstores, the majority of Americans are in favor of allowing same-sex “marriages” and believe that such unions will not hurt the nation.  It seems many in the evangelical church are also buying into the propaganda, that same-sex “marriage” should be allowed and even encouraged in the United States.  No doubt, today was a victory for the homosexuals.

How do I respond?

First, the SCOTUS ruling tells the Church that we are a minority.  Clearly, Christianity has been eroded in this nation.  While I am not going to argue that the United States is a Christian nation, I would argue that, like most of Europe and our English-speaking brethren in Australia, New Zealand, and South Africa, we are based on Christian morals and teachings. The Protestant work ethic is strong in the United States with a strong focus on individualism.  Yet postmodernism has swept the nation and we are now following our own ideas and values.  The only ones that most Americans despise are those who would say that their value is the only true value if that value is against their values.  Thus when it comes to morality, people now despise Christianity because it says that it alone is the truth of God and that it alone speaks for God.  Ironically, the secular media often defends Islam here in the US despite it claiming the same in many ways.  The fact remains that the Christian moral base that was around even when I was younger is fading fast.

Secondly, the Church can rise up and preach the gospel!  What is going to turn the tide of sin in the United States will be the gospel.  Sinners need to hear the gospel and this ruling by the SCOTUS simply shows that we must rise up and preach the gospel that saves sinners from sin (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).  Now is the time to preach the law of God to the lost (1 Timothy 1:8-11) and to declare that Jesus saves from sin (Romans 1:16-17).  God has promised us the power of the Spirit to do just that (Acts 1:8).  What will turn the culture toward biblical marriage (that alone is true marriage) will be the preaching of the gospel.  While it certainly is a very dark time in our nation, the Lord God can save the lost.  Remember that even in the dark book of Judges, God always had His remnant and He always was in control.  Even in the United States, Jesus is still Lord even if the majority of people reject Him as Lord.  He will still be Lord of all and He will still judge all (Hebrews 9:27-28).

Lastly, the SCOTUS ruling will not bring the wrath of God.  It is simply a sign of that reality.  Romans 1:18-32 is clear that the wrath of God is God giving people up to their own sinful desires (vv. 24, 26, 28).  Same-sex “marriage” is just another sign of God giving us over to our depravity.  The result of sin is always the same: death (Romans 6:23).  Whether it be death by sexually transmitted diseases or death by other means, sin always results in death.

The child of God should rejoice though that God is sovereign.  The SCOTUS ruling does not do anything to His authority nor His kingdom.  He will still reign.  Psalm 2:1-6 is worth reading at this time:

Why do the nations rage
and the peoples plot in vain?
2 The kings of the earth set themselves,
and the rulers take counsel together,
against the Lord and against his Anointed, saying,
3 “Let us burst their bonds apart
and cast away their cords from us.”
4 He who sits in the heavens laughs;
the Lord holds them in derision.
5 Then he will speak to them in his wrath,
and terrify them in his fury, saying,
6 “As for me, I have set my King
on Zion, my holy hill.”

Rejoice oh child of the King, Jesus is still in control!

Written by The Seeking Disciple

06/26/2013 at 12:17 PM

What Homosexual Marriage Will Mean For Future Evangelism

This week the United States Supreme Court is expected to rule on two cases before it regarding the issue of homosexuality and marriage.  It is believed that the Court will rule that Proposition 8 (that defined marriage as only between a man and a woman) in California will be struck down while the DOMA will be upheld.  The Court is likely wishing to make this a state by state issue rather than forcing the will of the Feds over the entire nation (at least at this point).  It is simply a matter of time before each and every state embraces same-sex marriage and perhaps other forms of marriage in the future.

The sad reality is that this will mean that persecution is coming for the true Church.  Already a brother was preaching recently in Sweden and he was told before he began that he could not say anything negative toward Muslims nor toward homosexuals.  He could not even say that the Bible says homosexuality is a sin.  The police officer toward him that one negative statement about Muslims or homosexuals would result in his arrest.

This is coming here soon.  I predict that the United States will embrace the radical tolerism we see now in Europe that accommodates everyone but Christianity.  Much of this in Europe is a backlash against Christianity which has dominated the continent for thousands of years.  Now with sin abounding and with radical Islam on the rise, the Europeans have embraced a completely postmodern mindset regarding Christianity.

This will be the future of the United States as well.  Same-sex marriage will lead to condemnation of those who reject this view (such as myself and all true Bible believers who uphold God’s view of marriage as He defined it in Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 19:5).  This will in turn lead to the government attacking those who use “hate speech” (in this case by saying that homosexuality is a sin).  Those who champion same-sex marriage will be hailed by the popular media and culture while Bible preachers will be bashed for their “intolerant” and “narrow-minded” views regarding the sin of homosexuality.

For the disciple of Jesus, we must stand firm.  Persecution is coming for the godly (2 Timothy 3:12).  A time is coming when we will suffer for the name of Jesus (1 Peter 4:12-19).  For far too long has the Church in the West enjoyed comfort.  Satan will persecute the true saints of God but the faithful will stand firm (Revelation 2:10).  The promise of Jesus is that He will never leave us nor forsake us (Matthew 28:20).  Many of us will suffer at the hands of sinners for our preaching of the cross but let us preach the cross with fire and with passion.  Souls need Jesus including homosexuals and all other sinners (1 Timothy 1:8-11).  The cross is our aim.  The cross is our sure victory.  Remember, in the end the Sovereign Lord will slay the wicked and He will reign forever and ever (Revelation 19:11-16).  May we keep our faith in Jesus and preach His truth despite what the unbelieving and wicked world believes.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

06/24/2013 at 10:00 AM

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