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My Blog Will Be Slowing Down

I am nearing my 3000th post on my blog.  That is amazing to me.  I started this blog in December 2006.  I have tried to post every day but have missed here and there.  Over the years I have posted on many issues.  I have posted posts on Arminianism, Calvinism, cults, culture, sports, and even some humor.

But I don’t want to miss my family.  My boys are growing up so fast.  When I started this blog, my oldest son was 2 years old.  He is now 9.  When I started blogging in 2006, my wife and I had been married only for 5 years.  Now we have been married 12.  Time flies.

I want to slow down the blog.  I will still blog from time to time but I don’t want miss time with my family.  Blogging can be consuming if you are serious about it.  That is why so many blogs run well for a while and then fad fast.  It is hard to blog each and every day and you run out of topics (much like topical preaching).  I enjoy blogging because this is my outlet.  I am not a preacher.  I am not an evangelist.  I don’t teach a Bible class.  I have no theological outlet.  This is it.  I drive a truck for a living and between my work (which can range up to 65 hours a week) to my family, blogging is just something I can slow down and I need to.

Again, the blog is not ending so don’t stop checking on me.  I am not going anywhere but just slowing down a bit.  I want to spend time with my wife.  I want to be with my boys and help them become men of God.   I want to pray and read the Word of God without an eye on my next blog post.  I want to live.

I will be back but just not that much.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

09/23/2013 at 12:03 AM

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Same-Sex “Marriage” and Religious Freedom

Here is a link to an excellent article written by Matthew Franck on same-sex “marriage” and religious freedom and how they will be at odds once the United States does recognize same-sex “marriage.”  When this does come to pass, the Church of Jesus Christ will have a decision to make.  Either it will stand for marriage as defined by the Bible or will allow culture (as wicked as it is) to define what is marriage.  The culture will not tolerate the Church standing against its views on marriage and will either persecute the Church to accept their views or will seek to make the Church pointless in society (which is what they want anyway).

I will repeat here again that the faithful expositor of God’s Word will be the one who will be persecuted the most along with faithful witnesses for Christ.  The expositor of the Word will have to teach that homosexuality is a sin because the Bible says that it is.  The faithful evangelist will suffer because they will proclaim that the sexually immoral will not inherit the kingdom of God and will suffer.

We must hide passages such as Matthew 5:10-12 and John 15:18-25 in our hearts because persecution is coming.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

06/19/2013 at 10:31 AM

Teaching My Boys To Pray By Praying

The disciples of our Lord learned to pray by hearing Him pray (Luke 11:1).  The disciple’s prayer as found in Luke 11:1-4 is not to be prayer mantra.  The prayer Jesus taught was to be a model prayer.  Matthew 6:9 says that we are to pray this way and not pray this prayer.  Some churches pray the so-called “Lord’s prayer” from Matthew 6:9-13 week after week but do they really seek God?  Are they truly earnestly seeking His face?  I think not.

The best way to learn to pray then is through modeled praying.  I want to teach my boys to pray so I don’t read to them a book on prayer.  I don’t even really teach them from the Bible how to pray as much as I do one thing: I pray with them.  I kneel down next to their beds and I pray with them.  We pray for about 10 to 15 minutes.  I pray the most of course but I am proud of my older boys (Josiah and Haddon) who do pray with me.  I am seeking to teach them that prayer is not about simply asking God for this or that though there is nothing wrong with asking God for something (James 4:2).  We are to ask for that which glorifies God (1 John 5:14-15).  Many things we ask for do glorify God such as Him saving people or Him healing people but I also want to teach my boys that prayer is also praise.  Prayer is where we can bless the name of the Lord.

I have written this before but I believe it is a point we need to hear and that is that prayer is not learned by reading a blog post on prayer or listening to a sermon on prayer.  This may help (and it should) but this is not praying.  The secret to prayer is praying in secret (Matthew 6:6).  Jesus often withdrew to lonely places to pray (Luke 5:16).  To learn to pray, we must pray.  My boys are not going to learn to pray by hearing me teach on prayer.  I could exegete every major passage on prayer and teach them (and we do have a Bible study from the Gospel of John) but this would not teach them to pray.  For my boys to learn to pray, they must hear me praying and learn from my relationship with the Father (1 Corinthians 11:1).  I want to lead my boys by example.  I want them to learn to pray like me just as the disciples of Jesus learned to pray by listening to Him pray.

How dare we teach others to pray if we are not ourselves praying.  How dare we talk about the Lord who hears our cries and will answer us when we call to Him (Jeremiah 33:3) if we are not even beginning to truly believe His Word and seek His face.  The promises are clear (Matthew 7:7-11) so let us deny ourselves and press into God’s presence through deep intercessory prayer (1 Timothy 2:1).  I want my boys to learn to pray and they must learn by seeing this man of God pray.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

06/11/2013 at 11:09 PM

Teaching Boys To Pray

This past Wednesday night I discussed prayer with our Royal Rangers group.  My text was Matthew 7:7.  How do you teach boys from ages 6-10 to pray?  While I do believe that teaching from the Bible is essential to teaching boys to pray, the best way to learn to pray is by praying with them and showing them how to pray.  Of course this requires that we know how to pray ourselves and that we know the biblical teaching on prayer but prayer is better caught than taught.

Leonard Ravenhill once said that the secret to praying is praying in secret.  I would urge you fathers and leaders of boys to learn to pray in secret.  Jesus said that His disciples would be marked by prayer (Matthew 6:5).  Jesus Himself demonstrated a life of prayer (Luke 5:16; 6:12) so much so that His disciples came to Him and asked Him how to pray (Luke 11:1).  Jesus often told parables to teach His disciples to pray (Luke 18:1).

The simplicity of prayer is seen in Matthew 7:7.  Jesus says three things about prayer here.  They are simply: Ask, seek, knock.  Three simple things that we have all done.  So why don’t we pray?  Is it fear of God?  Is it lack of knowledge about God’s will or His Word?  Is that we trust in ourselves or our technology above faith in Christ?

With my boys (both Royal Rangers and my own three sons), I want them to learn to pray both from the Bible and from my own life.  I want to be a deep man of prayer.  A perfect day for me in 12 hours would be 4 hours in prayer, 4 hours in the Word, and 4 hours on the streets evangelizing.  I want to instruct my boys to men of God, men who love Christ passionately.  I want them to pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17), to devote themselves to prayer (Colossians 4:2).  I want my boys to know what it means to find their dad wresting with God like Jacob did in Genesis 32:24.  I want them to hear my crying out with tears for the lost (Romans 10:1).  I want them to hear me interceding for all (1 Timothy 2:1-7).  Oh that my boys would be men of prayer!  Oh that they would learn to pray from me!

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 11:1 that he wanted the Corinthians to imitate him.  Do you want boys to imitate you?  Do you want others to copy your prayer life?  Your evangelism?  Your time in the Word?  Your deep love of Christ and His kingdom?  Your obedience to God?

Written by The Seeking Disciple

04/19/2013 at 10:43 AM

Pornography is not Intimacy!

Pornography is the desire for sex without the commitment to intimacy.  It is the feeding off the intimacy of others.  Pornography is for those who want to avoid intimacy.  But never forget, pornography is not sex.  Sex involves two people.  In a biblical worldview, sex involves a married couple who are committed to each other before God (Genesis 2:18-25).  Sex is the overflow of that couple’s intimacy but sex does not define a biblical marriage.  Marriage is not focused on sex.  Marriage is focused on intimacy.

That is why pornography is so dangerous.  It offers sex (but not really) without intimacy.  It seeks to replace what God intended to be between a husband and wife in the context of commitment.  Pornography is a sorry replacement for true intimacy because the person who indulges in viewing pornography is seeking intimacy in a wrong way, by viewing the intimacy of others.  They are not seeking intimacy with the one that God intended, their spouse.  Sex doesn’t begin with a kiss.  It begins with a ring.  It begins with a kind word, a loving smile, a warm hand, a listening ear.  Sex begins with a deep, passionate desire for your wife (or husband) to be your best friend, your passion, your hero.  Sex doesn’t begin with naked bodies.  It begins with long walks in the park, a rose after work.  Intimacy breeds sex.  Pornography produces lust.

How vital is it to learn to be intimate with your spouse.  God created our bodies to be enjoyed with only one person: our spouse.  He did not create them so that we could indulge in our sinful desires (Galatians 5:16-17).  In fact, sexual perversion will keep us out of His kingdom (Revelation 21:7-8).  We must guard against sexual perversion.  We can be forgiven of our sins (1 John 1:9) but His Spirit also empowers us to overcome sin (1 John 2:1).  Our passion should not be to view others intimacy but to create our own in the context of marriage.  In marriage, sex is beautiful and without all the guilt that comes from seeking intimacy without commitment (Hebrews 13:4).

I urge you, don’t allow pornography to trap you.  It offers cheap fulfillment with a substitute for the real thing.  It will never satisfy.  It will seek to and will even offer promises that it will satisfy but in the end, pornography will leave you spiritually bankrupt, guilty, dirty, and trapped in your mind.  The hope is the gospel.  The hope is intimacy with your spouse.  That is the plan and purpose of God (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).

Written by The Seeking Disciple

02/09/2013 at 11:59 AM

My Mama Enters Glory

My mama entered into glory today at 3:50 PM.  She was saved by grace and I am thankful that Jesus saves sinners.  No doubt my mama was a sinner like all of us (Romans 3:23) but Jesus came to save sinners (Luke 19:10).  I am rejoicing that my mama now is in the presence of Jesus Christ, the King of kings and Lord of lords who alone is worthy to be praised!

My mama is on the left by her twin sister.

My sweet mama on the left with her twin sister on the right.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

08/07/2012 at 9:25 PM

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