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My Reaction to Same-Sex “Marriage”

As I write this, I am heartbroken by the 5-4 decision by the United States Supreme Court to legalize homosexual “marriages.”  The SCOTUS in essence ignored democracy, ignored State’s rights, and changed the fundamental definition of marriage.  The issue before the Supreme Court was not about marriage.  It was about affirming homosexuality.  This decision by the SCOTUS will not end the homosexual agenda as the attacks will now turn up toward the religious who do not affirm homosexuality.  It not about marriage but about affirming sin.

So how do I react to this wicked decision by the SCOTUS?

1.  This decision does not change the biblical view.  While I have no doubts that many “evangelicals” will embrace homosexual “marriage,” a true disciple of Jesus will never back down.  Why?  Because homosexuality is a sin.  Homosexuals are homosexuals by their sinful choices.  They can be forgiven just as all other sinners can be forgiven (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

2.  Marriage will not be redefined by the SCOTUS nor anyone else.  A biblical worldview is against any other view of marriage but the one given to us by God Himself (Matthew 19:4-6).

3.  The Church must continue to preach against the sin of homosexuality just as we must preach the truth of biblical marriages (Ephesians 5:25-32).  God’s truth does not change because our wicked culture now affirms certain sins.  The Church must continue to call all sinners (homosexuals included) to repent and believe the gospel (Acts 2:38; 2 Corinthians 7:10).  I will not cease to preach that homosexuality is a sin and that it can be forgiven by the blood of Jesus.

4.  This decision should cause to pray for homosexuals to be saved.  Again, the fundamental issue here is not about marriage.  It is not about equality.  It is about affirmation.  Homosexuals (like all sinners) know that their actions are against God.  They know that they deserve the wrath of God because of their sins.  We all know this about our own sins whether it be homosexuality or greed or lust.  We know that God is holy and we deserve His just wrath against our sins.  Yet sinners (and not just homosexuals) want to run from this judgment.  They want to pretend that if society affirms their sin, the sin and their guilt will go away.  It will not.  The Holy Spirit is still working, He is still convicting sinners (John 16:8-11) and He will continue to convict homosexuals that their sin is against a holy God.  We must pray for homosexuals to be saved by the grace of God.

5.  This decision, of course, is not final.  God can transform our culture back to the truth of Scripture.  We must pray for Matthew 6:10 to take place.  A revival of God’s truth can not only save sinners but turn our culture back to the Word of God.  Once this happens, the SCOTUS decisions will not matter in light of the ultimate Judge.  A thousand years from now, the rulings of the SCOTUS will not matter as God will still be King.

6.  No doubt this is a sad time in the United States.  While sinners rejoice in their sins (Romans 1:32), the righteous feel mocked, we feel defeated.  Yet Jesus is still King of kings and Lord of lords (1 Timothy 6:15).  President Obama may celebrate this wicked moment but the righteous know that our true King longs for sinners to repent (2 Peter 3:9).  We should pray for the SCOTUS and for our national leaders to repent.  We should pray for the homosexuals who fought to bring this case before the Court to repent.  We should pray for the homosexual couples who now believe that their sin and guilt will go away by becoming “married” before the Government to repent.  We must pray for God to bring repentance to this nation.

7.  Lastly, we should pray for true marriages to be healthy, to be what God designed them to be.  I am not a perfect husband.  I have my many faults.  Yet I know that my marriage is a true marriage because of the Word of God.  I am married to one woman and our marriage has produced three boys that I am already teaching about true marriage.  The true reality is that only true marriages can produce children and parents of those children can teach their children the truth of marriage before the wicked culture tries to pervert the truth of marriage.  No homosexual couples will ever have children.  It is simply impossible.  Therefore, we who can have true marriages and produce children need to do so and train our children in the ways of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).  This will turn back the tide of sin and turn our nation back to true marriage.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

06/26/2015 at 6:25 PM

Why Do Homosexuals Want To Be Married?

Why do homosexuals want same-sex “marriage” to be legal?  Most homosexuals have been content to just live out their lives without marriage.  One poll I read from said that less than 5% of homosexuals ever get “married” to their same-sex partner.  Most are content to abide in their relationships while recognizing that, in reality, only a man and a woman can legally get married.  There is no such thing as marriage “equality” and people know this.

That has now all changed.  Our culture is quickly moving to make same-sex “marriage” a part of our society.  Those who oppose same-sex “marriage” are said to be bias, old fashioned, a bigot, a homophobe.  Everyone is being ordered to not just allow for same-sex “marriage” but the drum beat from the culture is that it is to be celebrated.  If someone declares they are a homosexual, we are not to merely remain silent on the issue but should rejoice in their lifestyle.

And that is the bottom line issue of same-sex “marriage.”  Our culture is seeking to redefine marriage in order to legitimize the sin of homosexuality.  Our culture wants to legitimize not just that sin but others as well including lying, greed, stealing, polygamy, adultery, incest, pride, and even pedophilia.  Nothing is out of the range of redefinition.

And why is this happening?  First, the Church has failed to preach the gospel.  The Church has been focused on numbers and the seeker movement has produced a church void of truth.  The teaching of the Bible has been replaced with pop psychology.  Theology has been replaced with “application” teaching and “cool and relevant” teaching.  Prayer has been replaced with programs.  Evangelism has been replaced with making the “unchurched” feel welcomed.  Words have replaced power.  As the Church has become lukewarm, lacking in the presence of God, and focused on numbers instead of faithfulness to God, the result has been churches full of people but lacking in true disciples.  False converts are everywhere!  This has caused the Church to not be able to address social ills and questions with the authority of the Word of God.  How can she when she has been playing harlotry with the world itself?

Secondly, the sins of homosexuality, adultery, lying, greed, etc. will not go away simply because society claims they are not sins.  The fact remains that the human conscience knows that these are sins.  Romans 1:18 says that people seek to suppress the truth because they love their unrighteousness.  When people reject God, God gives them over to their sins which includes the acceptance by culture of sin (Romans 1:28).  People love their sins whether it be sexual perversions or their greed or their false religions.  People know they are guilty before a holy God because there is enough of the Law of God in our society still to convict but the culture wants to suppress the truth and, in their minds, end their guilt they feel for their sins.  If the culture can remove Christianity, they feel that their sins will no longer convict them and they can live in complete wickedness without guilt.  This will never happen.

Thirdly, the Church has failed to preach faithfulness in biblical marriages.  Far too long we have tolerated unbiblical relationships to exist.  We must preach the truth of God’s Word about marriage.  God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 NKJV).  God’s Word has presented us with biblical marriages and we must obey the texts (Ephesians 5:22-33).  True marriage pictures Christ and His Church.  We have tolerated marriages that are below God’s standard.  We must repent of this and pray for the Spirit to repair our marriages.  Homosexuals look at traditional marriages and they are able to show so many ungodly, unbiblical marriages.  Divorce among Christians is high (not as high as some would suggest) but we must preach against divorce and preach forgiveness, reconciliation, and the biblical roles of men and women in marriage.  I myself had to endure my own parents divorce and despite this happening when I was already an adult, it is not something I want to endure again.

The response from the Church must be the same as always: the preaching of the gospel.  Homosexuals, adulterers, liars, pedafiles, rapists, perverts, drunkards, the greedy, those in false religions, etc. all need the gospel.  Paul makes it clear that God is able to save such sinners in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.  Sinners need the gospel!  Our culture is full of sin and thus now is the time for the Church to preach the gospel.  Paul wrote in Romans 5:20-21:

20 Now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, 21 so that, as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Notice that where sin increased, grace abounded all the more!  The gospel is the answer for our society.  Now is not the time for the Church to conform to the culture and simply allow for homosexuality to become normalized.  We must preach against all sins!  We must stand firm on the Word of God even if the culture rejects us (and they will for the sake of their sins).  The Bible is able to cut people to the heart (Hebrews 4:12-13) even if the culture rejects the Bible.  The Bible is a supernatural book written by the Spirit of God (2 Timothy 3:16-17) and therefore the Spirit is able to open sinners hearts to the Word of God as we are faithful to proclaim its truth.  Let us pray for sinners to hear the Word of God and be saved (2 Thessalonians 2:13-14).

Written by The Seeking Disciple

10/08/2014 at 9:48 AM

Ryan Anderson

Ryan T Anderson has been around for a while but I am just finding out about him.  Anderson is a Catholic apologist for marriage.  He defends the biblical view of marriage as between one man and one woman.  Yet Anderson does so primarily from a conservative political point of view rather than arguing from the Bible.  He has debated a number of secularists who oppose his views and support same-sex “marriage.”  I have been impressed with his arguments though I would begin with the Bible in support of marriage and against the sin of homosexuality.

Though Anderson comes at the issue of marriage from a different starting point than I do, we both agree that marriage is good for a society, that marriage has always been between a man and a woman, that government has the necessity to protect marriage in this form since healthy families promote a healthy culture and also provide a stable economic force for the community.  I go further and argue that marriage is defined clearly in the Bible as between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5-6; Ephesians 5:22-32).  Because God has said that marriage is between one man and one woman, this should settle the issue for the disciple.  Our job then is to preach the gospel to the lost and the biblical foundation of marriage will become part of their life by virtue of God’s grace at work in their hearts.  The gospel produces healthy marriages and the gospel also fights against satanic lies against biblical marriages whether it be same-sex “marriage” or adultery or unbiblical roles in the marriage unit.

Nonetheless, I do champion Anderson for fighting to protect a biblical view of marriage even if he does so from another avenue.  While I do not promote Anderson’s Catholic views, I would support his views on the issue of marriage.  His voice is a needed voice in our day when we are being bombarded (almost daily) with the false idea that same-sex “marriages” do not hurt a society and are not the end of marriage.  We also are being told over and over again that this is a discrimination issue and that homosexuals are like other minorities who have been denied rights.  Anderson correctly points out that no one is being discriminated when it comes to marriage.  Anyone can marry.  But a true marriage is not defined by simply two adults (or more in some cases) wanting to make this a marriage or that a marriage just because they want to.  Marriage is between one man and one woman and people are free to marry or not marry.  None are discriminated against in this case.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

08/01/2014 at 11:24 AM

A Baby Brings Joy!

I am the proud father of three boys.  My youngest son, Levi, turned 4 today.  What a joy he is to our home!

While reading in the book of Ruth during my devotions, Naomi returns from Moab to Bethlehem and there she complains that her life is bitter and for the people to call her Mara “for the Almighty has dealt very bitterly with me” (Ruth 1:20).  She went from Naomi (which means pleasant) to Mara (which means bitter).  Naomi was bitter of the loss of her husband and her loss of her two sons and her return in shame to Israel.

But the book of Ruth is a book that is full of hope.  In the midst of the turmoil of Judges, here is the story of Ruth who would eventually marry Boaz (Ruth 4:13) and she had a baby, Obed.  Obed would be the father of Jesse who would be the father of the greatest king in Israel, David.  And from David would come the promised Messiah, the King of kings, the Lord of lords, the One who would sit upon the throne of His father David forever (Luke 1:32-33).

Yet in the midst of all this, Naomi seems to be forgotten but in Ruth 4:14-16 we read:

14 Then the women said to Naomi, “Blessed be the Lord, who has not left you this day without a redeemer, and may his name be renowned in Israel! 15 He shall be to you a restorer of life and a nourisher of your old age, for your daughter-in-law who loves you, who is more to you than seven sons, has given birth to him.” 16 Then Naomi took the child and laid him on her lap and became his nurse.

I love verse 16!  How precious it is for a parent (or in this case, a grandparent) to take a baby and hold them.  I loved holding my baby boys and feeling their warm skin, their baby smell, and hearing them breathe.  I loved being close to them and protecting them.  Babies are so trusting, so loving, so forgiving.  They don’t care what you look like, how bad your day may have been, they just love you.

What I find precious about this story in Ruth is that Naomi doesn’t go back to calling herself Mara.  She remains Naomi.  Naomi is a much prettier name and I believe this baby boy named Obed brought her joy.  Babies do just that.

Isn’t it any wonder that the disciple of Jesus hates abortion!  Abortion murders a baby.  Yes abortion destroys the mother and scars her for life but it murders a baby and anyone who has held a baby (even a down syndrome baby or another handicapped baby) knows that children are precious.  Babies are truly a heritage from the Lord.

Psalm 127:3-5 (NKJV) reads:

3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.

4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.

5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.

And I say “amen” to that.  I praise God that He allowed me, this sinful fallen man, to have children and to be able to raise them in the fear of the Lord along with my precious wife.  I pray for my son Levi to be a great man after God’s own heart.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

04/08/2014 at 5:28 PM

Short Thoughts on Sending My Sons to a Calvinist College

I am a long ways from having my sons ready for college.  I have 9 more years for my first to enter into college.  However, the thought crossed my mind today about college.  I attended a conservative, evangelical college that has since changed in many ways.  When I first entered college, I came to my school by default as I wanted to attend a Bible college in Florida but changed my mind at the last second.  I dreaded my first year at college as the students around me were very shallow, few were seeking God, and the school was largely Calvinistic.  However, I persevered and graduated and did enjoy my time in college though I would not go there if I could do it all over again.

As I ponder this, I question would I send my sons to a Calvinist college?  I went into my school an Arminian and came out a stronger Arminian.  I was not one of these college boys who liked to debate theology.  I simply went to classes, worked at night at UPS, and spent my other free time hanging out with my church friends and seeking God.  I did not spend my time reading Arminius or Wesley or Calvin.  I didn’t care about the issue.  All I knew was that I was saved, hungry for Jesus, wanting to use my life to exalt Him however that looked.  I met some other international students who were prayer warriors and they would be my friends at college for their passion for Jesus and not for their theology (in fact I don’t remember once in four years discussing Arminianism or Calvinism with them).

However, I had a friend (who is now with the Lord after dying from cancer) who, like me, came to our college as an Arminian (he was Nazarene).  By graduation, he had embraced Calvinism.  He graduated and attended Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, KY where his Calvinism was rooted and grounded.  I do rejoice that my friend remained faithful to Jesus (though initially he embraced Calvinism for their teaching on the security of the believer because of besetting sins in his life).  He later pastored a couple of Baptist churches where he preached Calvinism.  Again, I praise God that my brother died in Jesus and not in sin.  In this case, his Calvinism drew him closer to Jesus as he grew sick.  I rejoice that my brother was faithful to Christ till the end.

Here are my thoughts on the issue.  Obviously, neither Arminianism nor Calvinism is a salvation issue. I know some will contend that it is.  I don’t.  I believe on can be an Arminian and be saved (praise God!).  One can be a Calvinist and be saved (though barely!).  In reality, only Jesus saves us.  If my boys love Jesus and that is evident, I will be a happy man.  Of course, if my boys did decide to attend a Calvinist school, I would simply pray over them and debate them until I prove to them that I am right!

The bottom line, in all seriousness, is that I want my boys to love Christ.  I want them to go where He wants them to go.  If the Lord wants my boys to not go to college, that is fine with me.  If He wants them to go to the mission field after they finish school, I am okay with that.  I just want my boys to exalt Jesus.  I pray daily for them to be saved and for them to live lives that glorify Christ.  I often remind them that as they grow older, my sins will become more obvious.  I am not a perfect man though I strive for holiness (Hebrews 12:14).  I remind my boys that as they see my imperfections, may they always remember that I am saved by grace and it is grace alone that will take us to heaven.  I want my boys eyes to be on Jesus and Jesus alone.

Written by The Seeking Disciple

12/23/2013 at 5:34 PM

12 Years Ago Today!

12 years ago today I married my best friend in the world, Joni Bailey.  She has been precious to me and I would not trade her for anything.  We have been through many highs and lows.  We have seen the faithfulness of God through it all.  I love my wife and I love being married to her only.  I pray that God will bless us with many more years to come.

Happy Anniversary to Joni!

Ephesians 5:22-33

10-27-01 3 PM Thomson, GA

Written by The Seeking Disciple

10/27/2013 at 4:54 PM

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