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Pornography is not Intimacy!

Pornography is the desire for sex without the commitment to intimacy.  It is the feeding off the intimacy of others.  Pornography is for those who want to avoid intimacy.  But never forget, pornography is not sex.  Sex involves two people.  In a biblical worldview, sex involves a married couple who are committed to each other before God (Genesis 2:18-25).  Sex is the overflow of that couple’s intimacy but sex does not define a biblical marriage.  Marriage is not focused on sex.  Marriage is focused on intimacy.

That is why pornography is so dangerous.  It offers sex (but not really) without intimacy.  It seeks to replace what God intended to be between a husband and wife in the context of commitment.  Pornography is a sorry replacement for true intimacy because the person who indulges in viewing pornography is seeking intimacy in a wrong way, by viewing the intimacy of others.  They are not seeking intimacy with the one that God intended, their spouse.  Sex doesn’t begin with a kiss.  It begins with a ring.  It begins with a kind word, a loving smile, a warm hand, a listening ear.  Sex begins with a deep, passionate desire for your wife (or husband) to be your best friend, your passion, your hero.  Sex doesn’t begin with naked bodies.  It begins with long walks in the park, a rose after work.  Intimacy breeds sex.  Pornography produces lust.

How vital is it to learn to be intimate with your spouse.  God created our bodies to be enjoyed with only one person: our spouse.  He did not create them so that we could indulge in our sinful desires (Galatians 5:16-17).  In fact, sexual perversion will keep us out of His kingdom (Revelation 21:7-8).  We must guard against sexual perversion.  We can be forgiven of our sins (1 John 1:9) but His Spirit also empowers us to overcome sin (1 John 2:1).  Our passion should not be to view others intimacy but to create our own in the context of marriage.  In marriage, sex is beautiful and without all the guilt that comes from seeking intimacy without commitment (Hebrews 13:4).

I urge you, don’t allow pornography to trap you.  It offers cheap fulfillment with a substitute for the real thing.  It will never satisfy.  It will seek to and will even offer promises that it will satisfy but in the end, pornography will leave you spiritually bankrupt, guilty, dirty, and trapped in your mind.  The hope is the gospel.  The hope is intimacy with your spouse.  That is the plan and purpose of God (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).

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Written by The Seeking Disciple

02/09/2013 at 11:59 AM

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  2. Reblogged this on Mark Block and commented:
    This subject has been something that I have been mulling over and considering writing about. Click the link above and read the post. He does a wonderful job articulating what I have been thinking and wanting to write about but never found the words to say the way I liked. Check it out!

    markblock

    02/09/2013 at 10:43 PM


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